Every person you ask is going to have a different response to this question.
What it boils down to in my opinion is this: there is no law that says a nonbinary person must completely reject any and all associations with the binary genders.
Being nonbinary just means that our genders are other or more than one of the two binary genders. Being nonbinary does not mean that we have to reject all binary gendered language, names, and actions.
Nonbinary people can:
-use she or he pronouns
-be girlfriends or boyfriends
-be Mr. or Ms.
-be sister or brother
-wear traditionally gendered clothing
-take testosterone or estrogen
-refer to ourselves as boys or girls, men or women
-be transmasculine or transfeminine
-still feel some connection to our assigned gender
-align with a binary gender for personal and/or political reasons
And still be nonbinary.
These things do not belong to the gender binary. Not all nonbinary people want to be androgynous in appearance, have gender neutral names, and go by they/them. Not every nonbinary person considers themself to be a distinct third gender. Some nonbinary people have fluid or changing genders that include the binary genders. Some nonbinary people embrace concepts of nonbinary manhood or nonbinary womanhood.
Every nonbinary person is different.
There is this myth that “nonbinary” is a single androgynous gender. And that isn’t reality. Nonbinary is an umbrella term for a group of people who often have complex gender identities, relationships with gender, and (but not always) gender dysphoria.
Tl:dr
Nonbinary identities are not necessarily exclusionary of the binary genders.
God I know this isnt the time nor place but does anyone else find it absolutely hilarious when a post is like “okay we have Love Simon and To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before we now need an f/f version!!!” And it’s an f/f version of what I can only assume is like a cute colourful romcom based on a ya novel about two girls in high school falling in love with funny lil hijinks ensuing, made recently like how Love Simon and tatbilb were released in 2018, but people in the replies just Very Earnestly respond with “we have Carol! Blue is the Warmest Color! Below Her mouth!” And, of course, my personal favourite, “The Ellen Show!”
hot take but closeted lgbt people are so fucking brave. being closeted doesn’t mean you’re lying to yourself or to others. that’s bullshit perpetuated by cishets to make us feel bad about ourselves and there’s no shame in being closeted. coming out should be entirely up to you, for you to decide how to come out and who to come out to. no one else is entitled to that information unless you want them to be and whether you’re closeted to stay safe, because you’re unsure or not ready to be out, or you just feel more comfortable being in, you’re not hiding and you don’t deserve to feel guilty. i’m proud of you and hope you can come out when you’re ready or want to, and it’s safe to do so
so when i was a clumsy, awkward, closeted middle schooler i used to say i was “as straight as a ruler” when my sexuality was questioned.
at the end of middle school, i finally came out as bisexual to one of my friends and her response was to pull out one of those bendy rulers (you know the kind i’m talking about) and she started to bend it while smiling giddly and saying “i’ve been carrying around this ruler for two years waiting for you to come out”
and that’s my favorite response i’ve ever received when coming out.
seeing the casual platonic physical affection the queer eye cast expresses is healing tbh. physical affection between lgbt people is so important…so many of us are lonely and touch starved and have complexes about seeming predatory if we so much as shake hands with a member of the same gender. and that stuff can’t just be fixed within romantic relationships.
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